Your partner has a history of bad relationships, is secretive
about past relationships, or seems to only have bad things
to say about most past partners.
Your partner pressures you into doing things you don't want
to do.
Your partner's personality and temperament seems to change
inexplicably or quickly.
Your partner tells you what to do or dismisses your opinions
as wrong or stupid.
Your partner is jealous or possessive.
Your partner doesn't seem to like any of your friends, family
or other loved ones, and suggests or demands that you shouldn't
either.
Your partner gets upset when you spend time with other people.
Your partner pressures you quit your job or other activities,
or quits his or her job and demands that you support him
or her.
Your partner is the only one who decides what role you will
each take in your relationship (for example, s/he demands
that you earn the income, or that you clean, cook, care
for the children-- while s/he makes all the major decisions).
Your partner blames you for most of the problems in your
relationship, and refuses to take responsibility for their
actions.
Your partner blames you for their own personal problems,
even when they seem to be completely unrelated to you or
your relationship.
Your partner uses looks and gestures to intimidate you by
communicating that s/he is getting angry.
Your partner criticizes you constantly for the way you look,
act, dress, parent, talk, or for your interests.
You partner tells you or makes you feel that you are incompetent
or unable to handle daily life.
Your partner criticizes your sexual orientation, culture,
traditions, spirituality, race, ethnicity, ability, and/or
age.
Your partner has mostly negative things to say about women
in general, and/or treats women as sex objects.
Your partner monitors your activities and demands to know
every detail of what you did with your day or outing.
Your partner throws things, yells loudly, or calls you names
when s/he is angry.
Your partner keeps you from leaving the room during an argument.
Your partner keeps you from sleeping or eating regularly.
